You are in your twenties. The word success is defined in too many ways to count and you're not exactly sure what the word means to you. I am not here to claim successes or tell you what your “personal success” should be or look like, instead guide you to your own conclusion and tips to finding, or at best, to stumbling onto a path of your own self success journey.
1. Setting clear and focused goals for yourself
“Don’t call it a dream, call it a plan.” - Elias Harris
Tip: Successful people seem to be the people that have their lives together, priorities in order and ultimately know what they want. Get in the habit of writing your goals down. Start talking about them with friends and family. Being able to physically see your aspirations in front of you, or hear you express your own wants, is a great kick in the ass to hold yourself accountable to the promises you made to yourself.
2. Make a commitment to grow daily
“Success is the sum of small efforts repeated.” - Robert Collier
Tip: We can all admit, there is no such thing as a, “perfect productive day.” There is always something more we could have done, could have woke up a little earlier, could have stayed at the gym a little longer, could have tripled checked the numbers on an analysis report, could have chose the salad over the fries… Make a commitment to yourself that you are going to be better then the person you were yesterday. Cheesy? Maybe. But you're an adult, realistically, you're keeping yourself in check. Don’t let your 20’s be the peek of your existence and strive to keep growing as an individual.
3. Dress like it
“Believing in yourself is the first secret of success.”
Tip: Look good, feel good. I love a pair of sweats as much as the next person but I also know I do my best work when I feel my best. If it’s spending a little extra time on your hair, or wearing a button up collared shirt on a Saturday, taking the time to pamper yourself can go a long way mentally. It’s the little perks that looking your best can boost. For example, feeling more confident to shake someones hand and introduce yourself, to keeping eye contact when speaking to someone. You never know who you're going to meet, or who you're going to run into. Always be ready to network, and with that said you’ll never see me at Walmart wearing sweats.4. Make your own education
“Formal Education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.” - Jim Rohn
Tip: Sorry to break it to you, education doesn't stop after your high school diploma, bachelor's degree or masters. Apply education to everyday life. Strive to learn something new about the world, your surrounding, a new dish to cook or documentary to watch. Life is so much more interesting when you have an appetite for it. Read the newspaper, follow a blog, do DIY projects, dive in. The world is as big as you make it out to be, and it’s a lot bigger to those who stay life long students.
5. Birds of a feather
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” - Jim Rohn
Tip: Don’t stick around people who don’t challenge you. We are the company we keep. Surrounding yourself with other people who are also chasing their dreams will make it a lot easier for you to push to accomplish yours. Find a mentor and listen to them, ask questions, observe them and maybe one day you’ll be there competition. If you have the mentality that the people around you are supposed to represent a piece of you, advice you, inform you, you’ll not only challenge yourself, but find yourself challenging others around you.
6. Make passion your paycheck.
“Do what you have to do, until you can do what you want to do.” - Oprah Winfrey
Tip: You’re in your early 20s, you likely don't have a spouse or a mortgage, and you and your actions are your only responsibility. Take advantage of that. You’ll never have as much energy as you do now or as much free time either. So if you have to struggle a while, starting from the bottom, it's okay. If it's efforts to land you somewhere doing something you love, I promise the extra mile comes naturally. If you enjoy your work, you’ll enjoy your work day, that’s an automatic 5 days of happiness. Stop working for the weekend. Work for your passion.7. Most Importantly, Stay Grounded
“Don't let people's compliments get to your head, and don't let their criticism get to your heart.” - Someone
Tip: At the end of the day, you’re still in your 20s. This is the time to make the mistakes, take a risk and fail, hopefully succeed, but failing isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you ‘right now.’ The worst thing that could happen to you is you get scared shitless, stay in the rut and the familiar and don’t take the risk. It’s important to note that successful people make mistakes and it’s something we have to accept about life. Stay grounded in the best times and the worst.
Hopefully I didn’t seem biased with my own definition of the word success. Broadly, for some people, success could be defined as, how much is in their bank account every payday, or how many instagram followers they have. To me, it’s is living a personally meaningful life and at the end of the day I am happy with who I am and what I contribute to the world.
What's your definition of success? Do you have any tips that have helped you feel successful? Let us know and comment below!